find what you love

You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

– Steve Jobs

After the meeting with the supervisor in the morning, I have been marking the whole day till 11pm. So, that was around 475 scripts. There is another 125 scripts or so to go. As I tossed and turned in bed, I couldn’t help but think about the conversation I had with a student last week during consultation. So, a week ago, I was chatting with a student who came for consultation, telling me she was struggling with Economics and the only reason why she’s doing a commerce degree is because her mom told her so. This has been on my mind for a while, because I just can’t get past the idea that one has to do something she/he hates for life, having had to do so for a while in my life. Hasn’t society progressed? Aren’t parents more open to kids choosing their own orientation, and decide what they want to do with their lives as they hit a certain age?

I have been through phases in my life where decisions were made by my mother. She decided on the junior college I was to attend. That was one decision I regretted. Looking back, I still do not fancy the junior college I went to, because of the self-deprecating culture they cultivated in most of us, particulary the arts students. I never did go back to the junior college after graduation.

It was after junior college that I told my mother that I would be making my own decisions from then on. It started with what major I should do in university. I sat down, and made a list of majors I was interested in and grouped them under simple categories, somewhere along the lines of “absolutely adore”, “can live with”, “absolutely hate”.  At the end of that exercise, I was down to the choices of: Journalism, Law and Economics. As silly as this may sound, I chose based on where my interests were, and not based on what my grades told me. I am glad I did so. Economics was my worst faring subject, but something I am really interested and passionate about.

So, as cliched as it is, always find and do what you love, be it with what you study, your work or relationships. Never settle for second best.

I have more to say. But, that would be for another topic.

Being judgemental

The dictionary defines the word “judgemental” as:

of or denoting an attitude in which judgments about other people’s conduct are made.

 

For a long time, I have always wondered how it feels like to be a judgemental person. From my perspective, a judgemental person is: one who always have something nasty to say about someone, or something, either directly or indirectly; one who comes to a conclusion even before he/she knows what exactly is happening; one who can easily claim someone is dumb without much justification. In my view, a judgemental person is unable to think before they speak.

There is a fine line drawn between being critical and being judgemental. The ones who are critical offers constructive criticism, and are able to substantiate what they say. The ones who are judgemental simply loves to judge, and say something before they actually process those thoughts.

I can’t change how the people around me are. However, I can indeed stay away from judgemental people.

Some people bring joy wherever they go, and some people bring joy whenever they go.

 

 

 

 

 

Keep life simple

I haven’t written a post in months, apart from the articles that are published elsewhere. That’s what happens when life gets busy. In a way, I feel that I have mellowed a lot over the years, particularly this year. I have learned to keep things private, away from this website and Facebook. I have learned to tap on my other ‘talents’ like writing, and to express my views and opinions in the form of writing for the student newspaper instead. It does bring back some nostalgia of the days when I actually wrote to the ST Forum. So, apart from the PhD, indulging in my other interests like baking, writing, photography, running and just socialising with people outside the Economics field really helps to take the pressure off.

So, there are several things bothering me, ranging from research (not having any results as yet, and data collection is killing me) to other things in life. I wanted to talk about research, and things that are bothering me.

Then, a friend shared this on Facebook:

‘Keep life simple’.

ABSOLUTELY!

How did I actually forget something so simple? That’s all I have to say.